I'M JAZMIN -- AN AMBITIOUS WOMAN (JUST LIKE YOU) WITH BIG DREAMS AND A DEEP DESIRE TO EMPOWER WOMEN WORLDWIDE.
Until 2015, I believed what many of us grow up believing as women:
That success will only be rewarded to those who work day and night, and that we should be thankful to have a job that pays the bills.
I also believed that loving myself or others was just an afterthought to doing whatever it took to do the work to be truly "successful."
Growing up with two over-achieving brothers, I constantly felt pressure to not only study hard, but to sacrifice my dreams and passions in order to be what most people would call “successful.”
About a year ago, I found that I had reached the goals I had been working toward… but all I had to show for it was a card from my boss, thanking me for one year at the company.
On that day, I realized I was living someone else’s life.
I looked around and saw the same cubicle, the same office, and a job that I didn’t enjoy.
I FELT INVISIBLE. I FELT DISAPPOINTED IN MYSELF. AND I FELT CONFUSED.
What was I doing?! Was I really working + studying so hard to end up in the same cubicle and the same position? Was this all I expected out of life?
I began to question what my life had become, and quickly decided to change direction.
The same day, I made a commitment to myself that I was going to seek for something greater than what society, and even my family, wanted for me.
I remembered something my grandmother told me: that when I leave this earth, the only things that will truly matter are how I’ve made people feel and what I’ve done for others. These words of wisdom set me on a trajectory of service and building a career that would allow me to empower women across the globe.
I started delving into self-development books and purchasing all the programs I could get my hands on to help me figure out how I could make my dream possible.
Once I started learning more about myself through my research and inner work, I quickly began to notice that I had been doing this whole “success” thing totally backwards!
Not just in my work, but also in school, relationships, and every area of my life.
In the past, I would often tell myself that once I achieved a certain outcome or result (a promotion at work, for example), that THEN I would be happier.
What I learned to be true was that the only thing blocking me from experiencing that happiness NOW was my own lack of self-love. It’s always been easy for me to be very caring and loving of others, but a real challenge for me to do the same for myself.
I used to speak to myself, and treat myself, horribly.
I would say things like … “If I was skinnier, I would achieve this … If I work this amount of time extra I would of get that promotion... If I do this and that, I would have a great man as a partner...”
But now, it’s MUCH different. I often tell myself encouraging things, like … “If I do this the way I want to, my result will be even better ... Regardless of my body size, I can achieve anything that I want ... I am just as capable as anyone else to achieve anything I want.”
After making these mindset shifts, I married an incredible man that loves me just the way I am, with no adding or subtracting!
I learned that I do not owe anyone my beauty or intelligence, and that if I can be truly accepting and loving of myself, others will be too.
And I’ve made a practice out of celebrating what I have accomplished, instead of beating myself up for what I haven’t yet achieved.
I’M PASSIONATE ABOUT TEACHING OTHER WOMEN THAT “SUCCESS” IS DEFINED BY THEM AND NO ONE ELSE.
I love to guide women toward their goals and aspirations, and to help them smash (once and for all) their reasons they have for not living the life that they’ve always wanted.
I believe that self-love was what rescued me, and I am excited about teaching as many women as possible how to love yourself first, above all else.